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Date registered: September 17, 2011



Latest posts

  1. I’m Pretty — March 5, 2015
  2. Q & A – What Do You Do When The Other Parent Isn’t On Board? — March 3, 2015
  3. Dear Parents: Don’t Be An Asshole — February 28, 2015
  4. Seven — February 22, 2015
  5. Eighteen — February 19, 2015

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  1. ‘Happy Holidays’ and other four letter words — 333 comments
  2. Why My Kids Will Never Be Socialized — 214 comments
  3. Not my idea of a hero — 153 comments
  4. I stole your stuff. Now I’m holding it for ransom. — 138 comments
  5. Mom’s Rules — 73 comments

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Mar 05

I’m Pretty


Last night when she was getting ready for dance class, Tegan looked in the mirror and said (as matter-of-factly as if she were commenting on the weather), “I’m pretty.” “You’re very pretty,” I told her, and the words came easily and confidently, not just as her mother but also as a human being who knows …

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Mar 03

Q & A – What Do You Do When The Other Parent Isn’t On Board?


  Carrie asks, What are your suggestions when the other parent isn’t on board with unschooling and gentle parenting? First, an example of what not to do: Several years ago, my family went to an unschooling conference in San Diego.  We’d been unschooling for many years, but the inspiration and experienced words you hear at …

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Feb 28

Dear Parents: Don’t Be An Asshole


Last night, before I went to bed, I read another article about the latest parent to publicly shame their child as so-called discipline.  Because the parent’s humiliating and degrading behavior was not enough on its own, photographic evidence of said “discipline” was then splashed about on social media as though it was entertainment.  Thousands of …

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Feb 22


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And three days later, I’m without words once again. The thing about Tegan is that when she was born, she brought what we didn’t even know was missing from our family. We were so happy with the three boys. Our family was lovely and wonderful and joyous… but it just wasn’t complete. And her presence …

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Feb 19



Today Spencer turns eighteen.  Every year on the kids’ birthdays, I write a special post about them, or make a list about why they’re awesome, or write them a public letter.  This year though, I’m at a loss. What can I possibly say that would do him, and this moment, justice?  What can I say …

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Feb 17

Q & A – My Child Calls Me Mean


Chelsea asks: How can I move past my children calling me, “mean”?  I’ve stopped yelling, and I’m working to be a more gentle parent.  But my four year old gets very aggressive when he’s excited or disappointed or angry, and he lashes out at me. First, awesome job on quitting the yelling!  It takes work …

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Feb 11

DIY: Homemade Face Wash


I LOVE a project.  Few things make me happier in life than creating something with my hands.  I love that moment of inspiration when I think of, or read about, an interesting idea.  I love gathering up my supplies.  Love the trial and error.  Love the feeling of pride in a finished product. Lately I’ve …

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Feb 09



There’s a scene in the movie, Mean Girls, that’s been on a continuous loop in my head (Mean Girls, by the way, is a movie you should immediately watch when you’re done reading this. One of the most ridiculous and quotable cult classics ever). In this one scene, the guidance counselor is doing a team-building …

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Feb 05

“I Feel Like All They Do Is Sit In Front of a Screen”

Photo credit:  Mike Cramer

A few days ago, I got a message from a new unschooling mom   She had concerns about one of the most common things that trips up new unschoolers:  ”screen time.”  This is a portion of that message, along with my response.   About 6/7 months ago we lifted all restrictions on screen time, in …

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Feb 04

Q and A – How Do I Move To Gentle Parenting?

On YouTube with an answer to another parenting question: If you have children and have been spanking and using rewards and punishments their whole lives, how do you start to make the needed connections to be a gentle parent? I answer this question, and share my own favorite piece of parenting advice I’ve ever heard. …

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