Category Archive: parenting

Feb 28

Dear Parents: Don’t Be An Asshole

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Last night, before I went to bed, I read another article about the latest parent to publicly shame their child as so-called discipline.  Because the parent’s humiliating and degrading behavior was not enough on its own, photographic evidence of said “discipline” was then splashed about on social media as though it was entertainment.  Thousands of …

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Feb 17

Q & A – My Child Calls Me Mean

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Chelsea asks: How can I move past my children calling me, “mean”?  I’ve stopped yelling, and I’m working to be a more gentle parent.  But my four year old gets very aggressive when he’s excited or disappointed or angry, and he lashes out at me. First, awesome job on quitting the yelling!  It takes work …

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Feb 04

Q and A – How Do I Move To Gentle Parenting?

On YouTube with an answer to another parenting question: If you have children and have been spanking and using rewards and punishments their whole lives, how do you start to make the needed connections to be a gentle parent? I answer this question, and share my own favorite piece of parenting advice I’ve ever heard. …

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Jan 12

Choosing Joy

I made a little video.  I’ve never made a video like this (and don’t plan to do it again) but I don’t know…. I started thinking about talking about fear, and I kept seeing the words in my head as little blurbs instead of one long written-out thing. I apologize for the unprofessional-looking video, but …

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Jan 08

Why We Need To Keep Talking About Leelah Alcorn

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I’ll be 41 in 2 days. Even at 41, it still stings when I get disapproval from my parents.  At this point, it’s stupid little things:  they don’t like my nose ring, or that I gauged my ears.  They stopped being excited about my tattoos after number 2 or 3. They hated my dreadlocks for …

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Dec 15

Saying No to Say Yes

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It’s a week and a half before Christmas, which is always…. tricky. I adore Christmas.  Love it.  Love the spirit. Love giving presents. Love the lights. Love the food. Love the Christmas cookies. Love hanging out with my family. But it can be so BUSY, which, if left unchecked, can lead to stressful.  Exhausting. The …

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Nov 14

Ten Tips for Happier Living With Your Teenager

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I love teenagers. I’m lucky enough to have two (so far) of my own, but I love getting to borrow other people’s teens as well. Teens are awesome.  They’re smart and funny and interesting, and some of the most multi-faceted people I know.  One minute they have more maturity than an adult …. and the …

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Nov 10

Being a Parent AND a Friend: Why I’ll Never Separate The Two

As an advocate of homeschooling, I forever hear the question, “But what about socialization?” and am inevitably filled with frustration. It’s not the asker’s fault of course, but it is a question born of a lack of understanding. A lack of understanding about homeschooling, and an even larger lack of understanding of the word “socialization.” …

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Sep 15

Hitting is Hitting is Hitting

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  On March 27th, 2014, an NFL player named Ray Rice was indicted by a grand jury for third-degree aggravated assault on his then-fiancee, Janay Palmer.  This past week, the website TMZ released footage of him punching Palmer, which led to the Baltimore Ravens terminating his contract. Also this week:  Adrian Peterson, another player with …

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Sep 05

The Missing Boot

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When I was around Tegan’s age, I had a little Strawberry Shortcake doll.  She was one of my all-time favorite toys.  That was back when Strawberry Shortcake looked like this: Instead of like this: I loved that doll! One day I realized that one of her shoes had gone missing.  Total devastation.  And the worst …

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