This past Sunday, more than 17 million Americans tuned in to watch Prince Harry and Meghan Markle sit down for an interview with Oprah Winfrey. In an interview that spanned two hours, they covered everything from arguments over flower girl dresses, to being hounded by the press, to pointedly racist comments within the family . Meghan also talked openly about her suicidal ideations, and the lack of help she received from the royals.

While the interview admittedly leaves a lot to be broken down, the part that I cannot stop thinking about is Meghan’s mental health, and her frank discussion of the day that they had a royal engagement to go to. She’d just opened up to Harry about her mental state, and when he told her that she didn’t have to go, she answered, “I can’t be left alone.”

I have felt that feeling.

The difference being, she had the pressure of having to put on a fancy dress, and smile, and engage, and be “on” for an entire evening all while no longer wanting to be alive.

My heart breaks for Meghan Markle.

A recent perusal of Facebook made me stumble upon a discussion by some of her detractors, people who either didn’t believe her or didn’t have any sympathy for her, one pointedly stating, ” …they narcissisticly (sic) chose to put themselves on TV complaining about problems many wish they had.”

What problems do many people wish they had? The problem of being relentlessly hounded and harassed by the British press? The problem of being made to feel unwelcome by your new extended family? The problem of a family member fretting over how dark the skin of your new baby would be? The problem of being so beaten down, so broken, so hopeless, that it feels like your only option is taking your own life?

So she has money. So she’s a member of British royalty. Her mental health doesn’t care about that. It doesn’t make her immune. If anything, the added pressure (Seriously… just think for a minute the enormous amount of pressure this poor woman was up against) makes it more likely she would have issues, not less. One look at the high rates or drug and alcohol abuse, eating disorders, mental illnesses, and suicides among the rich and famous tells us everything we need to know about the intense pressures that can come with fame and notoriety. Money is not synonymous with happiness. Celebrity is not the answer for stability.

Mental illness and suicidal ideation can strike anyone, regardless of their status. It doesn’t care how much money you have. It doesn’t care how famous you are or where you live or what you do for a living. It doesn’t care if, on the surface, you have everything you could have ever wanted in your life. IT DOESN’T CARE.

And to those who are callously saying they don’t believe her: You are part of the problem. While Meghan Markle will never hear your skepticism, your mom might, or your uncle, or your cousin, or your best friend. Someone who may one day feel the same feelings of despair and know that you’re not a safe person to come to. One of the hardest parts of being in that place is the severe feeling of isolation, the feeling that there is literally no one to turn to. No matter how many friends or family members a person may have, the loneliness, and the feeling that nobody understands, is staggering. Getting up the courage and the strength to tell someone, anyone, feels impossibly hard. And now? Now you’ve ensured that your loved one can cross you off their list of possibilities. Congratulations.

I see so many people patting themselves on the back for not caring. “I don’t care about the interview. I don’t care about the royals. I don’t care what those narcissistic blah blah blah blah.” We need to care. We need to care about everyone going through a mental health crisis. Why? Because too many people never get help. Because too many people fall through the cracks. Because too many people aren’t taken seriously. Because mental illness is an epidemic, and it’s never going to get any better if we don’t collectively care for everyone who’s affected. One in four people will deal with a mental illness in their lifetime. One in four. That means you know someone, or several someones, who are suffering right now. You can be the person that poo-poos mental health needs, who chooses to sit in ignorant privilege, or you can be the safe place to fall.

You need to care. We need to care.

At the end of the day, all we have is each other. We need to care. We need to care about our friends, our families, our neighbors. We need to care about PEOPLE. People who are afraid to ask for help, and people who are desperately begging for it.

And yes, we need to care about Meghan Markle.