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Out With the Old


A few posts ago I shared a picture of Tegan’s new stroller. This kitchen is another favorite. I adore this kitchen! Tegan got a few beautiful sets of wooden food, a lovely tea set made from recycled plastic, and some pots, pans, and utensils. Which meant that the kitchen was fully stocked, and we could finally get rid of the big, yucky and cracked plastic bin that was filled to overflowing with old plastic food… food that was lovingly played with for a long time, and that was worn, dirty, and otherwise cast aside. Everett went through it this weekend, picked out the few pieces he wanted to hang onto, and the rest found a new home in our recycle bin, plastic tub and all. Everything they’re left with fits wonderfully in the kitchen, with plenty of room to organize it however they’d like. I love it.

Few things give me such a natural high as getting rid of any sort of clutter! That one simple act has inspired me once again to continue the progress in the rest of the house.

In other current news, I snapped a couple of pictures of Spencer working on one of the cases in his new forensics lab. Very cool. I love the way their heads are bent together here, reading about the suspects.



And this is Paxton holding Leonard…


I am in love with this snake, and can’t believe we didn’t get one sooner.

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Google, Craigslist, and how I know they’re learning


Day 8 – Go to the library

Today was the first day of the advent that we were not able to do what we’d planned. We were going to go to the library, but Mike discovered a very flat tire on his Land Cruiser when he went out for work this morning. He took the Sequoia, and we were left carless. So instead of the library, we played at home and made cookies for the cookie swap we’re going to on Thursday.


Spencer came up to me today and asked me if I thought Craigslist was started by someone named Craig. I told him I didn’t know, but that it probably was, and we’d have to look it up to know for sure. He disappeared then, and came back just a few minutes later to give me a brief history of the site (It was indeed started by a Craig, Craig Newmark in 1995. He originally started it to post notices about events and happenings in his local city of San Francisco, and it grew to include sales, jobs, and apartments. He devoted himself fulltime to the site in 1999). The boys like to joke that they are not homeschooled, but Googleschooled, and for as much as they Google for information it is not far from the truth!

I love little moments like that, both because it’s just fun to learn interesting facts alongside the kids, and because it’s a tangible and visible answer to the question “How do you know they’re learning if you don’t test them/grade them/quiz them?”

How do I know they’re learning?

That one little five minute exchange showed – among other things – that Spencer has learned:

1. How to recognize a problem, and quickly find a way to solve it.
2. How to use the computer, to get where he needs to go, deduce the best keywords to use, and type and spell well enough to search for what he’s looking for.
3. How to sort through a large amount of information (a search for the history of Craigslist returns about 15 million results) and find what’s most relevant
4. How to quickly read, scan, and summarize text
5. How to relay that information succinctly to someone else

That is real learning! And the cool thing is that a year from now while I most likely will have forgotten the details, he will know them – names, dates and locations.

I see them learning. I see them learning all the time.

And finally, a few days ago we completed a project that has been in limbo for months now and today I was able to grab a picture. We were going to move the big boys out to the toy room, and have Tegan and Everett share their current room. But midway through the move (we had dressers hanging out in our computer room in the middle of the house for months) I realized that while they were anxious to have their own space, they really weren’t quite ready to sleep there. Plus Everett still wanted roommates, and Tegan was still quite happily sharing our bed. So we cleaned up the toyroom, moved out some toys, moved in their dressers, but kept all the beds as-is. We picked up another TV ($25 from Craigslist. Thank you Craig Newmark.) and hooked up the PS2. We set up the futon that’s been sitting in there mostly unused and usually buried under “stuff.” They now have their own hangout room slash den slash video game room, and they are very excited to decorate it and make it their own. And, we now have the PS2, PS3, and Wii all hooked up to different TVs, and could theoretically have all three systems in use at once. Awesome.


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Spencer and the Dentist


From the time he was very little, Spencer had a pretty significant fear of the dentist. It was so difficult for him that there was a long period of time when I didn’t know if he’d be able to sit even for a cleaning, let alone any extensive dental work. But thanks to time, patience, and the wonderfully kind and respectful dentists he sees, he now not only does cleanings, fillings and extractions (!) with ease, but also sat for an entire hour and a half yesterday getting braces without a single complaint. And he’s still smiling!

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Spencer’s Hair

I cut Everett’s hair this morning, and every time I’m practicing my hairdressing skills, I always ask if anyone else would like a cut. Paxton declined (I’m pretty sure his hair is the longest it’s ever been since he was a toddler), but Spencer announced that he was tired of his long hair, and ready to part with it.

He had a choice of scissors, the Flowbee – Everett’s preferred method – or clippers. Scissors took too long, and clippers were too messy. So Flowbee it was. Except the Flowbee unequivocally and steadfastly refused to cut his thick hair. So he went to plan B… the clippers, on the longest setting. Even with those, I still had to pre-cut with scissors to make the job easier. I don’t think I can adequately describe just HOW MUCH hair he had!

This is what he ended up choosing:


Light and comfortable, though admittedly odd for him (and me!) as it’s been so long since he’s had short hair. He picked the perfect week to do it, as he gets his braces on on Thursday, and will complete his whole new look.

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Spencer and his hair

Spencer hadn’t cut his hair in over a year. I’m not completely sure when he stopped cutting it, but it was short in this Easter 2008 picture, and I know it wasn’t cut since then.


He just let it grow and grow (and boy did a grow!) until he had a long, thick beautiful mane of hair.


The past several weeks he’s been asking to cut it. It was getting hot, it was easily tangled, and he was having trouble getting all the shampoo out of it. He’s got his mom’s thick hair to be sure! He didn’t want to go to a hair dresser because he’s not fond of getting man-handled, especially around his head and face. I can completely relate on that front, as I’m one of the only women I know who has no desire to get a massage, a facial, a pedicure, or any of the other spa-related pamperings that people get so excited about.

But he wanted it cut. So this weekend, I cut it myself.



He knew exactly what he wanted… he still wanted it on the longer side, but with bangs and long layers. We tried to model it after Dylan and Cole Sprouse – from the Suite Life of Zack and Cody – but since he has so much natural wave, it turned out a little more Jonas Brother than Sprouse Brother. He is very happy with it, thrilled with how light it feels, and excited to have a “‘do” instead of just long, long hair.


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Spencer and the Arrow of Light

This weekend was Spencer’s Blue and Gold dinner banquet, the night he received his Arrow of Light – the highest achievement in Cub Scouting – and officially graduated as a Cub. Here he is standing onstage with his den


Shooting his flaming arrow


With the parents


Checking out his plaque. They are beautiful… Decorated arrows, stained wood, and an engraved nameplate.


No longer Cub Scouts!


Mom and her boy


Award nights are exhausting!


Right now, he doesn’t think he’s going to continue on as a Boy Scout. A few days ago he played soccer with some other kids while we were at Paxton’s baseball practice, and loved it so much that he wants to give it a try. We got him a ball, and if the interest is still there, will sign him up in the fall! Busy boys.

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A Week in Pictures … and a few words too

Has it been only 9 days since my last blog? What a full and eventful 9 days it’s been.

First, I’m sad to report that we lost the praying mantises. 🙁 We still don’t know what went wrong, but every last one of them had died by the time 3 days had passed.

On a brighter note, on Friday we released our butterflies. It actually took some coaxing to get them out of their habitat (I think I was envisioning them just gratefully bursting forth as soon as it was opened) but they eventually found their wings – and their freedom – among the bushes in our backyard.




In other animal news, Paxton’s leopard frog tadpoles are still doing well, but Everett’s tadpole is… off. We can’t yet tell if he is dying or if he has just slowed way down because he is a critcal stage of his transition. I’ve been following the instructions, feeding him regularly (but not too regularly), keeping his water cloudy (but not too cloudy) etc. I guess all we can do now is wait.

We actually haven’t had a lot of time to think about butterflies and tadpoles lately anyway, because we’ve been busy visiting! Our good friends Doug and Erika were here for five days and we had such a great time. We hadn’t seen each other in six months so we had lots to catch up, necessitating lots of busy days and late nights… and in one case, staying up till 4 in the morning playing Wii, PS2 and baking cookies.

Our first order of business was going geocaching. We’d been wanting to do it forever, and were happy to finally have an excuse to go, and some willing cohorts to go with us. For the uniformed, geocaching is like a big treasure hunt game. You plug in some coordinates into a GPS, hunt for the cache – which is filled with little trinkets – sign the log book, take something & leave something, and re-hide it for the next person. It was a blast and it is now officially our new favorite family hobby. We can’t wait to go out and do it again.






We also went to the Phoenix Children’s Museum for the second time, and it was every bit as fun as the first.







Last, but most definitely not least, we celebrated both Spencer and Tegan’s birthdays in one big party on Saturday. Tegan loved spending time with her grandparents and aunt and uncle, and she had a blast opening her presents






But the highlight for Tegan, in traditional Tegan style, had to be eating and enjoying her first ever birthday cake. I have to note again, for the people who have not yet heard me say it, that the lamb cake was made from the very same cake mold that made my first birthday cake 34 years ago. I was so very excited to make it for my own daughter, and what made it even more special was learning from my Mom that she too had a lamb cake for her first birthday. Three generations of little lambs! She commented that my grandmother – who passed away 5 years ago and whom I still dearly miss – would be tickled to know that Tegan had a lamb cake too… and I know that she was.






Spencer loved his cake too



and his presents




and having a real life police officer to show him how to use his new fingerprinting kit

All in all, it was a great day, and a great week… with great family, and great friends.

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Tadpoles, Baseball & Flaming Arrows


The last of the creatures arrived last week – the leopard tadpoles that Paxton has been waiting for with bated breath. They too lived on our kitchen counter for a few days until a space was cleared and a permanent spot was made for them in the boys’ bedroom.

Floating in their bottles so they get could acclimated to the water’s temperature:


All set up and ready to go:


Tonight Mike helped the boys get their cocoons situated in their new habitat, where they will hatch into butterflies. It involved using a safety pin to attach the paper disc to the mesh on the side of the structure. Strangely enough – especially given my fondness for office supplies – but we couldn’t find a single safety pin the house. Thankfully, there is a revolving door when it comes to borrowing from the next door neighbors (which goes both ways), and they came through in the clutch.

Here they are all settled in on Everett’s dresser.


I wish there was sound with this picture, because after they were disturbed during the whole pinning process, a few of them started to shake violently, a natural instinct to protect against predators. It was one of the eeriest things I’ve seen, and heard, in awhile, and it made a rat-tat-tat sound like a spinning roulette wheel on the wall of the habitat. I don’t know how long it continued because I left the room before it stopped (and might not return again until morning!)

In non-creature news, this Saturday was Paxton’s baseball tryouts for the spring season. He did very well, especially at fielding, and he barely resembled the unsure child who just started playing this past fall! We’ll find out who his coach is and what team he’ll be playing on next week, and practices start in earnest the second week of February. Spencer is finishing up his final weeks of being a Cub Scout, and just received his Citizenship and Traveler pins. On February 28th he’ll be getting his Arrow of Light at a fancy dinner banquet and ceremony, where he and the other boys in his den will get to shoot an actual flaming arrow. Cool!

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Santa and goose eggs

The week before Christmas started with a clock building project, and ended with a bump to the forehead! The boys channelled their extra energy – some of it anyway – into one project after another, from making homemade gifts for their relatives, to painting a wooden truck, making the afore-mentioned clock, and starting two bridges in a really cool (and challenging) bridge building kit that Spencer got as a gift last weekend. We also made three batches of cookies, read some new books, and logged a few more hours playing the Rollercoaster game on Playstation. My four year old officially knows more about running a business than I do, as long as that business is a virtual theme park! We’ve been staying up late… watching movies, getting things ready for the holiday, and just hanging out. Last night when the kids were having their last hurrah before they passed out, Spencer decided to jump onto our bed right next to where Mike was laying watching tv, and collided (and collided rather hard) with his elbow. In seconds, a huge blue knot was forming in the middle of his forehead! I ran downstairs for the booboo piggy and a cookie, and after icing it for a few minutes, the swelling came right down. Poor Spencer was so tired at that point, he didn’t even want the cookie! He’s back to true form this morning, and both he and Paxton are wildly excited about Santa coming tonight. The baby is still sleeping – must be worn out from his first haircut last night – and while he couldn’t care less about Santa, is nevertheless enjoying the high energy in the air. I’ve always heard growing up that things are even more exciting when you see them through your kids’ eyes, but I never fully understood it until I had kids of my own. The magic, the excitement, the joy that is Christmas…. as wonderful as that was as a kid, it really is even better as a parent. Merry Christmas!

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